“You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes every day. This is a power you can cultivate. If you want to control things in your life so bad, work on the mind. That’s the only thing you should be trying to control.”—Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love (via larmoyante)
“I don’t want to get rid of the unpleasant things,
I want to learn how to deal with them.
I don’t want to numb the pain because I would only be blocking out the happiness to come as well,
And replacing it by feeling nothing.
I want to feel every mountain and valley because the landforms are always beautiful
No matter how low or high you are on life.
I claim the tears and the sorrow because they are necessary to ever appreciate anything good that comes my way.
I choose to feel the acid rain that pours upon my soul and all the broken hearts, Because I know someday the sun will reach through the darkened clouds and cradle my battered body in its arms, and let me know everything will be okay again.
And I’ll bandage my own broken hearts,
After learning that I don’t need anyone but myself to do it for me.
Some may call me crazy for embracing the terrible things, but I do.
I want poetry,
And sin and forgiveness,
And tumults and beacons of hope.
I claim them all.”—Jaelyn.Aragon, The Right to Emotions (via aestheticintrovert)
One of the reasons school is such a wonderful thing, is because you get to meet a plethora of amazing, unique, and beautiful people.
Every person I have met carries with them a story, a past, a tragedy; something that forms their passion, their dreams and drives their motivation.
But one of the most important lessons I’m learning this year, is that sometimes I expect things to last longer than they probably do and should. Everything is fleeting and transient and it’s so important to remember that. That’s how you live in the moment. These people you have around you right now, they’re only around you for a couple months, maybe years. Then time will pull you apart - job opportunities, life partners, your dreams, unforeseen circumstances and what have you.
Enjoy the now. Be in the now. Focus on the now.
No one knows what tomorrow will bring, but if you focus on what’s right in front of you - I’m sure the future will work itself out.
I used to say going to school, particularly graduate school, with a wife and child was impossible. I want him to prove me wrong in every single way.
He needs this degree more than anyone else. He needs to build a career, because his ten month old bundle of joy needs him. His wife who makes quiet sacrifices so that he can go to school, needs him. All my love goes to him and his child and his wife.
May God give him the strength to cruise through the next four years. May everything be easy for him, may he find blessings and opportunity in every corner and may God reward his hard work with only growth and success.
Time pulls some people together and others apart. I think that’s something we all have to come to terms with.
Being friends means spending this moment, this present together. Don’t worry about the future - that all remains to be seen. If your friendship endures, great; If not, smile, be happy for the time you spent together and move on.
“I am a woman,
who was born of a woman,
who was born of a woman.
He is man,
who was born of a woman,
who was born of a woman.
We are both
only water, heartbreak,
and a trembling fear of God,
like our mothers,
and their mothers.
Still he speaks of his limbs
as if he were Adam(as),
who was the only man
who didn’t come
from a woman.
Who will explain to him
that his miracle
is his mother.
his mother.”—Key Ballah, Your Miracle is Your Mother (via keywrites)
“Whoever has offended you and then approached you to apologize, humility obligates that you accept his apology whether it is truthful or not, and that you leave his secret thoughts to Allah. The sign of generosity and humility is that if you notice a defect in his apology, you do not address it nor hold him against it.”—Ibn al-Qayyim, Madaarij as-Salikeen (Ranks of the Wayfarers), 2/338. (via asifeq)
The blessing in breaking through timidity to bow before an honest awe, resolving to admit to love what the mind failed to suppress. To, so willingly, be cast back by that sober truth. Of just how much you can really love someone, just how much you never thought it possible to love someone so much.
And even greater is the blessing of him, the one who introduced you.
And so begins a new academic year; my 2nd year in Pharmacy school and my 4th year at a post-secondary institution alhumdulilah.
I’ve come a long that’s for sure, by the mercy of God. I was such a loser coming out of high school - there’s no doubt the past three years of my life have been the most life-changing. There were many struggles, many uphill battles, many mistakes and many, many wrong turns. But, to be entirely honest - I have no regrets. Everything in my past made me who I am today.
So without any hesitation or fear, I am ready to face the new year knowing full well it will bring new challenges, new experiences, and new people into my life.
What’s happening in Pakistan is really giving me so much anxiety and worry.
I have a lot of family in Karachi, and with recent reports of unrest spreading south from Islamabad; I’m beginning to get very antsy. There is a lot wrong with Pakistan to say the least, but I hope you can understand why I’m not going to throw my full support behind PTI and PAT. Starting unrest in a time where we have all seen what unrest can do, even if justified (see Syria) - makes me uneasy. That being said, the treatment of the protestors and reactions to their peaceful assembly (if they were truly peaceful) by the authority is unjust, immoral, and a violation of human rights.
I’m not a scholar in South Asian history nor politics, but what I am sure of is this: there are very corrupt factions on both sides of this dilemma who can and may turn this struggle for democracy into a bloody ordeal (some may argue that this has occurred and is still occurring).
I pray both sides commit to restraint and pursue non-violent means towards a solution. Nations are built by incorporating the ideals held by two or more factions, compromising some ideals and building onto others, in a way to create a just and moral society where all have rights, liberties and freedoms.
May God protect the weak, the oppressed, and those who fight for justice and virtue.
Although technically my first day of classes is September 8th - I’ll be busy from now till then with countless meetings and pharmacy frosh. Although I’m looking forward to it, I’m going to reminisce about this past summer so much. A more perfect summer I could never have imagined, alhumdulilah.
Life is transient. People come and people go. Everything is temporary - every happiness and every sadness. Let the truth of that wash over you and fill your entirety. There is no sadness that can consume you forever, and no happiness that can last forever.
My best friend of 10 years has finally moved back into the city, alhumdulilah.
I had a smile plastered to my face ALL day. The moment he landed he called me. He drove straight from the airport to my house. For the first time in six years we sat down and had food together.
We became friends when we were 10. He moved when we were 14. We talked using every medium while we were apart. Now we’re both turning 21, and he’s finally back.
There are some friends who, despite not sharing any blood, are your family. He has been a brother to me, the best friend anyone could ever ask for, and I’m SO excited for what life has in store for us insh’allah. There are so many things to catch up on, so many things to do and see.
“I’ve found that people love me when I expect little from them, and hate me when I expect more. What they fail to realise is that the higher my expectation, the greater my belief in their ability to be amazing.”—(via cynicallyjaded)
I was tagged by Aaleen aka one of the most inspirational people I know.
I’ve recently discovered I’m a hoarder. I’ve been cleaning my room to make way for renovations and I’ve found things from 2004. I’m a sentimental person and that’s okay, but keeping a movie ticket from a movie I watched in 2006 is ridiculous. Especially when I STILL see those same friends on a weekly if not daily basis.
I love to cook. I can make various types of omelettes, pastas and soups. I’ve been trying to learn how to cook Desi food but it’s pretty challenging and as of yet, I haven’t been able to make anything on my own without the intervention of my mom haha.
My mom taught me the importance of dressing well. She taught me how to match my clothes and how to keep myself well groomed. Because of it, I really have come to enjoy looking put together and keeping myself well groomed.
Being on campus is something that I actually enjoy. I love studying in the library with friends, grabbing take-out in-between classes, making coffee/tea runs. My experience at university has been amazing alhumdulilah and I dread the day I graduate and leave all this behind.
I wear my heart on my sleeve. Everyone knows what I’m feeling and I don’t take any measures to hide it. If I like you, I like you. If I’m happy, I’m happy. It is what is it.
I’ve recently sworn off swearing. I don’t use vulgar language often, and I’ve never used it to harm anyone. I always use them as terms of endearment between my really close friends. I often refer to my friends as hoes, or whores or mofo’s, or bit*hes (whether male or female or whatever). It’s just something that we’ve become accustom to and we’ve been doing it for quite some time. Lately though, we’ve realized this isn’t the best thing to do, so we’ve come up with a “pact” that rewards us for not swearing and punishes the individuals who continue to swear. Hopefully this will help!
I used to read Harry Potter fan-fiction, back before the 6th book was released. I read the stories people wrote guessing at what the next two books might look like. My 2nd Official OTP was HarryxGinny (my first being T.K.xKairi from Digimon Adventure 01/02). I could not tell you how happy I was when Rowling put them together during HBP.
I really dislike homogeneity, whether it’s in my friends or my daily routine. When it comes to people, I don’t like having friends who are ALL the same type (race, culture, language, religion, etc). I find that it’s important to expose yourself to many types of people and many perspectives. This world is very diverse so you might as well have a taste of all it’s colours. When it comes to my daily routine, I don’t like doing the same things over and over again. That being said, I’m not opposed to having a schedule - but I think from time to time you need to break away and try something new or go someplace you’ve never been before.
I have trouble getting to know people online. I know many people who have found very strong friendships that have been entirely virtual. For me though, physical interaction is very important. I need to be able to see your expressions; to read your expressions and your body language. I find that virtual interactions really do pale in comparison to physical ones and it makes me very uncomfortable talking to someone I have never met in real life. Of course, this is my personal opinion, as I’ve met many people who don’t feel the same and have found amazing friendships through the interwebs.
I used to be a very pathetic person. During high school I was someone who didn’t have any self-esteem and someone who was entirely dependent on the judgement and perception of others. It was a very depressing period of my life. Alhumdulilah though, things got better and today I could not be any happier.
It’s times like these I have a really, really low tolerance for any selective activism. Seriously, don’t think that just because a group is being oppressed, it suddenly can’t afford choice. Your solidarity, if not wholehearted, consistent and principled, is not welcome. Don’t underestimate the cause to be so desperate.
And I would like to remind people that posting about your commitment to obliterating anti-blackness while claiming “you’d never marry a black person, because it’s just a preference” or writing about how Shiaa Muslim are Muslims too while refusing to associate or pray next to a Shiaa Muslim or writing about the necessity of feminism in Islam while telling a girl you won’t marry her because she won’t wear hijab are two sides of the same messed up coin. Your hypocrisy bleeds.